A former coworker of mine just got engaged after living with and dating her now-fiance for SIX YEARS.
While I think that's practically a common-law marriage, some people think that dating that long is necessary to make sure you're ready to commit to a life together.
But here's the thing: Only you can know when you're ready to take the next step.
one to two years is often a good amount of time to date before getting engaged.
Longer than that and you might just never get married or take your relationship more seriously and after ten or so years your relationship starts to break and you don't feel obligated to fix it.
ONE TO TWO YEARS?! That sound like no time at all for me!
But wait, its not necessarily about time!
"I've worked with a lot of couples who have strong relationships, and they met and fell in love quickly and really got to know each other's friends and family," Kerner says.
"They got to experience what it's like to live with each other or spend a lot of time with each other, go through some life cycle issues, like the loss of a family member or the loss of a friendship, or going to a wedding or funeral and really getting to see each other in a lot of different contexts and feel like it's a good match. And generally, that can happen in a year... You want to have some problems emerge and see how you deal with problems together.
For me, it's more about the range of experiences that lend themselves to compatibility rather than the amount of time."
My parents dated about 3.5 years (I think???) before getting engaged, then waited about 4 years after marriage to have me!
But then again, they only saw each other on weekends because my mom lived in New Jersey and my dad lived in California so I guess at the end of the day they were physically together for about a year and a half haha!