Men and women are different not just by the make but also by nature. They have a different approach to different situations; they prefer the same thing differently. Same goes for erotica. Women prefer a different approach to erotica as compared to men.
What’s Erotica to Women?
The hero of the romance fictions might be dangerous, virile and lusty, but they are far from being just sex objects, unlike women in the erotica for men. As the plot develops, the hero becomes more human, more like vulnerable. And he falls in love with the innocent and less experienced heroine.
All the heroes of romantic fictions are alpha males and most women are attracted to them magnetically. His physical prowess, competence, and status confidence make him dominant. It is this male authority that women are susceptible to and are willing to submit them to.
In short, women have an erotic preference for alpha dominance. His voice, his scent, his gait and movement, his sharply defines features, these hold erotic appeal to women.
The novel ‘A Handbook For My Lover’ has become erotica by the sheer virtue of a protagonist, who is unidentified and who reveals and revels in her desires. But the writer, Rosalyn D’mello, refuses to view it as erotica. The language is evocative and it arouses the readers, making them privy to sensuousness. Even in the writing, women only erotica is different. You can feel the subtle difference, even in the lesbian erotica stories. A female erotica writer and reader, both emphasize emotions. They are unhesitatingly expressive about their longing and yearning but often in isolation. The narrative of erotica by a female point of view lingers beyond the act and before that as well, unlike in a man’s narrative.
Also, the fantasies of a man are different from those of a woman. Men spend less time in foreplay and seduction. And they have a strong preference for younger women, girls while women prefer older men because of their competence and confidence.
Men and women are naturally different and that reflects in their erotic preferences as well.